this is so accurate and necessary to shed light on. a woman is expected to put her life and desires on pause for her kid and nothing less than that is accepted to be a "good mother" but that expectation doesn't rest on men even though it should be equally distributed. we tolerate the bare minimum from them. Great work!!
Thank you and you nailed it. We as women have learned to appreciate the bare minimum. Especially when it comes to partnership and raising children. The more we have these conversations the more we hold them accountable. Thank you for reading❤️❤️
I feel I could have written that post, or that I might have been a mother, who felt what you are feeling for many mothers out there, in a previous life.
I looked at my wife with envy as she nursed my two daughters. That look in her eyes, the intimacy they shared. The soft coos, the sighs. I could never have that. But then, with each of them, as they grew a little older, on my arms on either side of me. The three of us during story time, me sending them to distant lands with my tales, the far away look in their eyes—the joy, the adventure. My wife looked on with envy. She knew she could never have that.
Both girls are away, to college and beyond. They confide in my wife like she was their best buddy. With me, it’s talk of finances, or career advice. I keep my distance, my wife tracks them twice a day on iPhone family. I would not have it any other way.
We reap what we sow. Part time fathers will get part time children. Mothers will always be mothers. No amount of fathering can replace them.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful comment. I appreciate hearing the ache of a bond you couldn’t have, and the beauty of the one you did. You’re right. we reap what we sow. But what you sowed is no small thing. It lives in them even if it doesn't always come back in words. Fathers may not be mothers, but the best of them leave quiet legacies too. You sound like one of those.
I’m not sure I’m following. If the father has the kid 20 days out of the month and takes care of every single things, then they wouldn’t constitute as a part-time father, would they?
this is so accurate and necessary to shed light on. a woman is expected to put her life and desires on pause for her kid and nothing less than that is accepted to be a "good mother" but that expectation doesn't rest on men even though it should be equally distributed. we tolerate the bare minimum from them. Great work!!
Thank you and you nailed it. We as women have learned to appreciate the bare minimum. Especially when it comes to partnership and raising children. The more we have these conversations the more we hold them accountable. Thank you for reading❤️❤️
I feel I could have written that post, or that I might have been a mother, who felt what you are feeling for many mothers out there, in a previous life.
I looked at my wife with envy as she nursed my two daughters. That look in her eyes, the intimacy they shared. The soft coos, the sighs. I could never have that. But then, with each of them, as they grew a little older, on my arms on either side of me. The three of us during story time, me sending them to distant lands with my tales, the far away look in their eyes—the joy, the adventure. My wife looked on with envy. She knew she could never have that.
Both girls are away, to college and beyond. They confide in my wife like she was their best buddy. With me, it’s talk of finances, or career advice. I keep my distance, my wife tracks them twice a day on iPhone family. I would not have it any other way.
We reap what we sow. Part time fathers will get part time children. Mothers will always be mothers. No amount of fathering can replace them.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful comment. I appreciate hearing the ache of a bond you couldn’t have, and the beauty of the one you did. You’re right. we reap what we sow. But what you sowed is no small thing. It lives in them even if it doesn't always come back in words. Fathers may not be mothers, but the best of them leave quiet legacies too. You sound like one of those.
what if the father has the kid for 20 days out of the month? And they take care of every single little thing no questions to you: None:
I believe not only will you be the breadwinner easily. You'll probably be a fortune 500 within six months;
Them? They might deserve Father's Day, maybe.
I’m not sure I’m following. If the father has the kid 20 days out of the month and takes care of every single things, then they wouldn’t constitute as a part-time father, would they?